Author: Stacy

“I have a plan! I will get my first child at 25, then the next at 27, and the last at 29. I wouldn’t want to be popping babies after I get to the third floor. Given that by round 24, I’ll hopefully be married, then I can get the baby chapter done as soon as possible so that I can get on to raising them while I’m still ‘young.’ I have a plan!” I said as I decisively put together what was to be the blueprint for my life. And as all movies go, that plan crushed, burned, and the wind blew away the ashes.  ...  read more

The complexity of the relationship between two people with a child (either already born or on the way) often leads to a problem of blurred lines. What this is, is that when it is unclear what the relationship is, then it becomes tough to have or impose expectations, plan for a future or assign parental responsibilities. The lack of clarity then causes a situation where the relationship is at the mercy of whatever wind may be blowing. Ever heard of people who are in relationships they didn’t know they were in? Well, that’s a very real possibility when relationships aren’t defined.  ...  read more

Because of the rate at which children are born outside of marriage and couples sometimes decide against pursuing a long-term relationship with each other but want to remain in their child’s life, the best alternative is co-parenting. I’ll put in a disclaimer here before I trip over my own tongue though: I have little to no experience co-parenting and I’m therefore not speaking from an experiential standpoint. However, I still choose to write about this because I have watched other parents around me co-parent and I’ve learnt a ton of things from them. Secondly, given the rate at which this has become part of society now, it’s important to begin or add to the conversation on this issue. And so with that, I’d like to point out some (not all) the ways in which it is possible to develop and manage a healthy co-parenting relationship. ...  read more